What is legally included in alimony? What about the pension I have built up?

Questioner

I am in the process of divorcing my ex-wife, but now they have drawn up an agreement with a joint mediator. I think the mediator is not clear in everything. When I have questions, she just rattles them off and everything in the interest of the woman but on many things I also do not get clarity.

Lawyer

In consultation with your ex-partner and the mediator, it is determined which costs fall under the alimony. This often concerns living expenses, such as food, clothing and housing. In the case of your pension, this can indeed be a complex subject. In general, I can tell you that in the Netherlands, the pension that is built up during the marriage is divided equally between both partners after a divorce. This also depends on whether you are married in community of property or on a prenuptial agreement. It is important to note that while mediators must act impartially, they are not legal experts and do not have the same duties as a lawyer would have to represent you. If you feel that your interests are not being properly represented, you have the right to seek legal assistance. You may consider hiring a lawyer who specialises in family law to thoroughly investigate your position and rights and to advise you further. Please note that every situation is unique and legal advice is tailored to your needs. It is important that you seek the assistance of a legal professional, such as a family law attorney, who can examine your situation in detail. ---------------- Stichting Rechtswinkel.nl is a national organization with students and volunteers. The above advice is based on limited information and may be incomplete or even incorrect for your situation. Always consult a lawyer or attorney for your further steps. Read disclaimer: https://rechtswinkel.nl/disclaimer I would like to invite you to rate the above answer so that we can learn from your response. Can we help you or refer you for free? During office hours, call 040 2350422 for further consultation (free of charge) with Echtscheidingswinkel.nl