Where can I best go for help dissolving a registered partnership?

Questioner

My husband and I have been together for 23 years, 10 of which have been in a registered partnership. We have a 13-year-old daughter. 6 months ago I decided to throw in the towel after years of misery and unrest in our relationship. This decision did not go down well with my husband. Which resulted in 6 months of fighting, misery and even more misery. I hoped that by creating distance, there would be peace and that we could sit down to find the most peaceful solution that would work out well for everyone. Unfortunately, I have to give up hope that it will ever work out and the situation is now so bad that I worry whether it is still a safe situation for my daughter. The intention for these 6 months was that we would switch every 2 weeks with living in our house with our daughter. In this way she could continue to live in the house and she was in her familiar environment. Of the 6 months, that went well for 2 or 3 months. The other months he did not keep to the agreements, which forced me to leave all the time because he refused to switch. This while he is severely depressed and cannot always take good care of her. She is often late for school because she oversleeps when I am not home. The oversleeping is possibly due to bad choices he made to numb the grief with all the consequences. In the meantime, he still refuses to switch and I am forced to live at home too because I no longer trust the situation and do not want to leave my daughter alone. It has become an untenable situation. I am stuck and do not know what to do anymore. It is clear to me that I cannot do it alone. Everything has been affected by the situation, including finances. I am on a sinking ship and need advice on what steps to take next.

Lawyer

A lawyer or mediator can help you draw up a parenting plan for your daughter, which includes agreements on the division of care, child support and other important matters. If your registered partnership involves children under the age of 18, a parenting plan is required by law. The fact that you are concerned about your daughter's safety is very serious. If you are immediately concerned about your child, contact Veilig Thuis. This is the advice and reporting centre for domestic violence and child abuse. They can provide advice and take action if safety is at risk. I recommend that you contact www.echtscheidingswinkel.nl They can help you get an idea of ​​your financial situation and may be able to provide support. It is also important to know that if you have a low income, you may be eligible for subsidized legal aid, known as legal aid. I hope this gives some direction. Again, it is really important that you seek professional help due to the complexity and seriousness of the situation. ---------------- Stichting Rechtswinkel.nl is a national organization with students and volunteers. The above advice is based on limited information and may be incomplete or even incorrect for your situation. Always consult a lawyer or attorney for your further steps. Read disclaimer: https://rechtswinkel.nl/disclaimer I would like to invite you to rate the above answer so that we can learn from your response. Can we help you further or refer you for free? Call the Divorce Shop during office hours on 040 2350422

Lawyer

Dear Madam, A dissolution of a registered partnership must be done through the court. All joint assets/debts are then divided in principle in equal parts. Agreements about your daughter are then recorded in a parenting plan. I understand that you actually have nowhere to go. In some circumstances, you can continue to live in the house with your daughter during the proceedings without him being allowed to come to the house. I do need more information to be able to say whether the court will grant this. Then you will at least have time and space to let the dissolution proceed calmly. My method in this case is always a letter to the other party with a proposal from the client about the division and agreements concerning the child, and only then proceed to steps at the court. In this way, an attempt is made to reach amicable solutions. Should you need my assistance, please feel free to call me. Yours sincerely, Mr OG Ozturk On behalf of Helta Law