How do I make arrangements for visitation?

Questioner

I am in a very difficult situation with my son's father. We have been dealing with domestic violence for years (we didn't live together, but he was here every day). He left angrily last Thursday morning and I decided not to be home that evening and stayed the night at my sister's with my son. We would very much like to make agreements regarding our son, but we cannot reach an agreement on our own and we would like some help with this. I ended up here on the advice of the local police officer and because it is of course not possible to make appointments at short notice, she also asked whether it is possible for me to make temporary arrangements with him. I'd like to hear it.

Lawyer

If there is domestic violence, it may indeed be wise to first make temporary arrangements before a permanent contact arrangement is drawn up. In this way, peace can be created in the situation. To make temporary arrangements for the visitation arrangement, you can seek the assistance of a professional mediator. This independent professional can guide you in making decisions regarding the care and upbringing of your son. It may also be wise, given the situation described, to contact Veilig Thuis. This is an advice and reporting center for domestic violence and child abuse. They can help you further and advise you on options for safety, guidance and shelter, among other things. In addition, legal steps may be necessary. For example, you may consider hiring a lawyer to request an interim injunction for the contact arrangement from the court. In this interim injunction, a temporary contact arrangement can be recorded. This interim injunction prevents definitive decisions from being made immediately, while the situation may still be very tense. The judge will always put the interests of the child first. Before taking further steps, always consult a lawyer or attorney, they can provide you with further advice based on your personal situation.' ---------------- Stichting Rechtswinkel.nl is a national organization with students and volunteers. The above advice is based on limited information and may be incomplete or even incorrect for your situation. Always consult a lawyer or attorney for your further steps. Read disclaimer: https://rechtswinkel.nl/disclaimer I would like to invite you to rate the above answer so that we can learn from your response.