After our divorce, my ex got rid of things without consulting me.

Questioner

We have been divorced for almost 4 years, the house was put in her name so that our 3 children could have a familiar environment. We would do the division in good consultation but after the signature the door was slammed shut (literally & figuratively). I asked several times when we could do it but she didn't like that. Last week I heard from my son that she is going to throw away a full trailer with stuff. I quickly went to look and there were many things that we bought together and also from the children but also a few of myself! I took out a few bags and shoes but other than that I couldn't get everything off. Also when it comes to high chairs, children's clothes, old furniture I would have liked to have a say since we bought it together. She has a rich father but I don't and can use everything in my rented house ... what can I do? I still have personal belongings at her house, never got the chance to pick them up ... and the division she never wanted to do! what can I do with that? Feels so unfair and I don't think she can do that... I look forward to hearing from you. Thank you in advance. Yours sincerely,

Lawyer

It sounds like your ex-partner is being unreasonable and is not willing to come to a fair division through mutual agreement. In this situation, there are a number of steps you can consider: Talk to your ex: Try to get back in touch with your ex and discuss your concerns and frustrations about the way she is handling the division of your joint assets. Make it clear that you are entitled to your share of the things you have acquired together and that you do not want things to be thrown away. Hire a mediator or lawyer: If your ex-partner is not willing to negotiate, it may be helpful to hire a mediator or lawyer. A mediator can help you reach an agreement with your ex-partner without it going to court. A lawyer can help you protect your rights and ensure that you get what you are entitled to. Seek legal advice: If you are unsure about your rights in this situation, you can always seek legal advice from a lawyer or legal advisor. They can help you understand what your rights are and how to protect them. Gather evidence: If you suspect that your or your children’s belongings are being thrown away, gather evidence of what exactly is being thrown away and what the value of the belongings is. This can be helpful later if you file a lawsuit. It is understandable that you feel frustrated and angry about this situation, but try to remain calm and think carefully about your next steps to ensure you get what you deserve.