Questions about alimony and contact? Free advice!

Questioner

My ex wants my current husband to bear the majority of the financial responsibility for his children. He has dropped considerably in income and has had a calculation made in which the financial needs of the children have been determined and he will now pay less than 1/3 of that. I understand that he wants to pay less, but I think it is more reasonable to divide the needs of the children. Can I say that? In the meantime, he has transferred even less alimony on his own initiative than his lawyer calculated. Is he allowed to do that? The children of 9 and 12 don't really want to go on holiday with him. They don't feel safe, are being pressured, and everyone they love is being smeared. What can I do about this? In addition, he has blocked me from communication for 6 weeks. It is not possible for me to contact him. I do not want to give my children to someone I cannot reach in any way. He wants communication to take place via our 12-year-old child, but I will not cooperate with that. I have a contact arrangement with an adult and not with a 12-year-old child. What are the possibilities?

Lawyer

You can submit the collection of the outstanding and fully owed amount to the LBIO (see www.lbio.nl). There are no costs involved for you. If your ex wishes to change the alimony amount imposed on him, he will have to initiate legal proceedings for this. In that procedure, you can then defend yourself against what he states. I then advise you to hire your own lawyer with knowledge of alimony calculations. If desired, you can contact me.